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Pastor, You Need Perspective

Perspective is a funny thing because many times the way we think a situation is can be very different from how it actually is.  I heard of a man on flight who was asked if he would like a meal. He asked, “What are my choices?” The flight attendant said, “Yes or no!”    The right perspective is developed by walking with the Lord and listening closely to the Holy Spirit. “The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.” (Ps. 37:23)  You also need others who can speak into your life.  “For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.” (Pro. 24:6)  

  1. Learn how to self-correct!Daily cleaning is required.  You and I must be willing to scrub our personal temple every day.  1 John 1:8 says, “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”  It is easy to ignore our own sin when we are focused on the sin of others. Especially when we see their sin as so much worse than ours!  A great truth shared with me years ago applies here.  “What sin you uncover, He will cover but what sin you cover, He will uncover.”  Fall on your face and repent as fast as you can because the deceiver himself is always setting us up for a fall.
  2. Learn to listen to the right people!  The key here is to make sure that we are spending time with and listening to those who will have the best and most uplifting influence on our lives. Prov. 13:20 says, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” The truth is that we become like those we hang around with.  The old cliché says it well, “Wisdom is contagious.  It’s something you catch more than something you comprehend.” People will influence and even change you but not necessarily for the better.  You and I choose whom we will allow to speak into our lives; choose wisely! 
  3. Learn to lead yourself to Christ!  If we want to know the difference between the divine and the demonic we must choose to sit at the Master’s feet every day.  You can celebrate God in a crowd, but you can only get to know God one on one.  In Divine Mentor Wayne Cordeiro shares the story of a concert pianist and his dedication to playing scales three hours a day in order to maintain the dexterity in his fingers and to give him the ability to move through the most difficult pieces with speed and accuracy. He said, “If I skip one day of scales when I play in concert, I notice it.  If I skip two days of scales, my coach notices it.  If I skip three days of scales, the world will notice.”
  4. You’re not bulletproof!  You’re not superhuman!  You can’t leap a building in a single bound! And here’s the best news, God doesn’t expect you to be.  Wayne Cordeiro, in Leading on Empty, says, “We don’t forget that we are Christians.  We forget that we are human and that one oversight alone can debilitate the potential of our future.”  Because your calling is to always give, it is easy to wear out before you realize.  Your self-discipline, unrelenting work ethic, and drive for excellence will only cover the pain so long.  You can’t drive on all cylinders all the time – there is a time to rest!   
  5. You can’t fix every problem!  If you are not very careful you will be trying to fix everyone’s problems except your own.  Pastors have problems, challenges, and struggles just like everyone else.  Learning the difference between a concern and a responsibility could save your ministry, your family, and your sanity.  People make their own decisions and are responsible for them.  They can be very demanding and have a tendency to expect too much.  Living with the feeling that you are always disappointing people or letting them down is a challenge.  You will burn out sooner on the inside than you or others will be able to see on the outside.    
  6. You must manage your passion!  Your passion for God and the ministry is what will get you up in the morning but can also sabotage your efforts.  This is important because there will be times when you are more passionate about something than your members are and when your members are more passionate about something than you are (good or bad).  Watch your attitude.  Make sure everyone is calm and kind when discussing the things they are passionate about.  Many times the right position is destroyed because of the way it is presented. 

Know your audience and when there is conflict handle it biblically on the lowest level possible.  Someone says, “There are several of us who want to discuss this with you.”  You should say, “Well, let’s you and I discuss it one on one first!”  Also, always look for alternatives.  Make sure that people are not allowed to bring up problems without offering a solution. Just because someone has a different opinion doesn’t make them your enemy.  

Managing your passion means that you value the opinions of others and that you encourage other people to share their perspective.  It has been said that, “Feedback is a ladder not a hammer.”  Find a mentor and a mentor is “someone who had been where you want to go and is willing to help you get there!”  Make sure your perspective is Christ-centered and gospel based!         

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