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My roots are being born into a military family. Being the youngest of four children I was the only one to have the opportunity to be in the same high school until graduating because my dad retired following my freshman year! He served for almost 27 years and actually lied about his age at 17 so he could begin his service.

We moved from base to base every couple of years and even got to live in the Philippines when he received orders to go to Clark Air Base in 1966. There were challenges but we were blessed to see most of the United States and some of the world.

We were so military that both of my brothers served in the Navy and my sister married a career Air Force man. I never served because at 15 God called me into full time ministry and after high school I headed off to Central Baptist College in Conway, AR.

Some of my fondest memories and favorite pictures of my dad was when he was in uniform. He entered right at the end of WW II and served during the Korean War and Vietnam. He was very proud of his service and is buried (along with my Mom) at the National Cememtery in Pensacola, FL.

One of my greatest memories was the color guard at the cemetery. They represented almost every branch and they snapped his flag so tight and folded it so precisely. It was humurous to us that there was a lady in the color guard. He was very old school and and didn’t think ladies should be placed in the postion of having to go into combat.

He was a TI (technical instructor) in bootcamp for a couple of years and was asked by a nurse if he had any ladies in bootcamp. As he lay on his death bed he replied, “No!” and then after a long pause said, “Thank God!” I was concerned for his nurse but she smiled and assured me that she understood old sargeants like my dad!

There are many things I learned from being a part of a military family that I am very thankful for. We were not afraid of saying the pledge of allegiance to the flag and saying “one nation under God” even though we did not really attend church until I was 12.

Looking back on his legacy there are lessons he taught us through the way he served and how he talked about his country. He was passionate about America and sported a bumper sticker on his car that said, “America – Love It or Leave It!”

He was not right about everything and many times discussed his failures but when we did disagree on politics, policies, or people he would smile and say, “I may not always be right but I’m never wrong!” While he was far from perfect (none of us are) he was right in a lot of areas that shaped me and gave me a strong foundation on what liberty and freedom require.

He was a strong disciplinarian and gave his life to Christ at the age of 43. It was wonderful to watch the transformation that took place in his life as a follower, a disciple, of Jesus Christ. Here a few things my Dad taught me about Liberty and Freedom:

  • Respect the Flag – You don’t burn it, walk on it, spit on it, or disgrace it in any way because of what it represents. He knew America was not perfect, far from it, but he still believed in her. He believed the flag should be respected because it represted a nation of people where all are created equal. We were taught to respect everyone no matter what color their skin was, how much (or little) money they had, what level of education they had obtained, or what religion they were. You earned respect, you were not just granted it!
  • Honor those who served their Nation – Men who served, especially in combat, were heroes. Men like Audie Murphy who was the most decorated soldier in WW II but also all those who served as a support for the soldiers who were on the front lines. I have very vivid memories of seeing many wounded soldiers while living at Clark Base who were brought there to recover. One man I saw in the hospital had scars all over his body after being caught in machine gun fire. Give honor to who honor is due!
  • Freedom has cost many their lives – It is sad how many want to scream and protest the loudest who would never be willing to serve their country and sacrifice the way many have. That free air we are breathing cost many their lives because of their service to our country and to other countries in fighting for freedom. You can argue whether we as a nation should have been in certain wars or conflicts if you want but we must still show the honor and respect due to those who gave the sacrifice!
  • Vote your Convictions – Once again, we did not always agree but he took his responsility as a citizen very seriously. He would look over their voting records meticuously and would not miss any election. He was very mindful of how candidates viewed the military and how they took care of veterans (there is some great wisdom). He instilled in me the need to vote or to be quiet about what was happening in our country! Will we use the upcoming presidential election to get our country headed back in the right direction?
  • Pray for America! – I watched a man go from no interest in church or the Bible to a man who opened up God’s word every morning and would spend time talking to the Lord. He often shared with me what he was praying about and how God had answered certain prayers. He knew our nation needed God even if many did not agree or realize it. The Bible he used daily has underlined in it II Chron 7:14, “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven,¬†and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”

This quote by Darrin Patrick sums up a lot about my Dad and the truth about Freedom and Liberty:

“Freedom is not the right to do what you want. It is the power to do what you should!”